If a Man Pays for a Date…You Owe Him Sex?

In today’s dating culture, it is widely debated whether or not a man is expected to pay for the first date. Men are feeling used, after feelings of getting nothing in return for paying for the first date. To get a woman’s attention, is a man really obligated to cough up money on the first initial date in order to be seen as a potential “option” for the woman? If a man refuses to pay for the first date or simply would like to split the bill  , is he suddenly banished to the friend zone or listed as an unsaved number? The idea is that if a man takes the time to pay for your meal, [especially if he took you to an expensive restaurant] then  sex is expected at the end of the night. Let’s all keep it real, if a man spends $200 on a date, he’s expecting to get some ass at the end of the evening; not a simple kiss on the cheek and a “good night” text. The question is…do women owe this to men?  Continue reading “If a Man Pays for a Date…You Owe Him Sex?”

Are You a Loyal Woman or Just a Dumb Ass?

A lot of people loosely throw the word “loyalty” around as if  it’s a quality that everyone possesses. In regards to a relationship, loyalty towards your partner is definitely one of the major keys that can either make or break it.  Consistently showing your support and allegiance to your partner can help build a relationship with longevity and trust. Despite this, many women are often loyal to the wrong men. They either get caught up in their emotions and lead with their heart or end up leading with pleasureful desires if they become “dickmitized”.  Both are equally unsatisfying.  So the question is, at what point does being a loyal woman become a dumb ass decision?

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10 Signs She Might be Using You for Sex

There is this common misconception that men are the only ones expected or allowed to engage in a relationship solely for casual sex. I think the whole world forgets that women have sexual needs and  similar desires to express themselves intimately yet freely. There are so many blogs and videos out there to recognize red flags when a man is using a woman for sex but, no one really talks about when the roles are reversed. What happens when you meet an amazing woman with a radiant personality and perfect body to match? You arrange to go on a few dates, have sex and then you never hear from her again. After talking to a few men about this topic, a lot of them revealed that they have been through similar situations and were left confused, shocked and hurt at the fact that a woman could have sex and never talk to them again. Especially, considering the fact that they started to fall for their personality. Though most men say that they are more concerned with being used financially, being used for sex can be just as alarming if you aren’t paying attention to the signs. I believe that both men and women should tell each other from the start what they are looking for so that no one develops expectations or unrealistic feelings, however, we ALL know that things don’t usually play out this way.  Here are 10 Signs She Might be Using You for Sex: Continue reading “10 Signs She Might be Using You for Sex”

What Makes a Woman “Wifey” Material?

So often on social media, I see men and women debate what it means to be “wifey material”.  Who wrote the set of rules that determines whether or not a woman fits the mold of what a wife should be. It is 2016 right? Women are taught that if they don’t dress or act  a certain way, then they will not get a decent husband. Society places unnecessary pressure for us to find a husband and get married but, not without looking and acting a certain way.

It is no secret that NBA player Steph Curry’s wife, Ayesha Curry, is put on a pedestal for men and is considered the ideal “goal”when it comes to marriage. From a public standpoint, Ayesha fits the mold of a conservative wife; but where is the issue with a married woman like Kim Kardashian also coexisting. Who says that getting you an “Ayesha Curry” is going to solve all of your problems when it comes to a relationship; she’s not an antidote.

The standards of a woman being “wifey material” are overrated and here’s why:

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4 Reasons He Won’t Commit to You

Been seeing this guy for a couple of months and things are going great! He has a great personality, nothing like my ex, and loves Grey’s Anatomy almost as much as I do. I think I could really see a future with him, only problem is, he hasn’t asked me to be his girlfriend yet. Maybe i’m just being paranoid but why won’t he commit?

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5 Reasons Why Being Petty With An Ex On Social Media Is A Bad Idea

Most of us have been through a significant break up within our lives and in today’s society , breakups are seen as a race. We race to see who will move on first and there’s always a competition on social media to see who will be the “pettiest”. I personally love the couples that post faithfully about their relationship every week. They never miss a WCW or a MCM post. They are committed to posting their fancy dinner dates and basic relationship memes that remind us that we are missing out on their picture perfect union and love. Then all of a sudden, the posts stop! That’s when I know that things have hit the fan, and the posts about how they’re finding themselves and how they will patiently wait for the “right one” begin. This is the turning point, where I know the plot will thicken and  social media pettiness will be at an all time high. So I brace myself….Celebrities aren’t the only people that enjoy putting their business on social media for the world to see.

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Friends in Relationships

I love you and you love me, we’re in a healthy relationship that can stand the test of time and nothing will ever come between us; until one of you morphs into the green eyed monster that tries to kill all of your significant others friends of the opposite sex. Here’s why friends of the opposite sex can ruin or strengthen a relationship.

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I Forgave my Cheating Partner, But Can’t Get Over It

Have you ever been in a situation where your partner stepped out during your relationship but instead of leaving you decided to “work it out”. You may have decided to work things out because there are children involved, deep feelings, or you just wanted to give the relationship another go around. We aren’t here to judge your situation, because honestly a lot of people have felt  the pain of their lover showing interest in someone else . You might say to yourself ” I love them” , but I still have trust issues and keep bringing up the past over and over again.The relationship becomes filled with even more stress because there are constant arguments that are fueled by those trust issues and insecurities. chrisaintloyal4Keep reading for  7 Things You Should Think About Before Taking a Cheating Partner Back Continue reading “I Forgave my Cheating Partner, But Can’t Get Over It”