Another #SnapChatConfessional slid into our DM’s and I think we all have been in a similar situation such as this one; so why don’t we all just sit in a circle, hold hands, and talk about how much we hate ourselves? The snap confession reads:
Ok I have a serious dilemma and I can’t talk to my friends or family about this because they’re over trying to help me. So i’ve been dating since I was a teenager and have been in a few serious relationships. The three most serious relationships never lasted more than a year but they were serious to me because usually I don’t date guys for more than a couple months. The problem with those serious relationships was that even though I cared about those guys I wasn’t in love with them. I don’t even think I loved them and they were great men. The issue was me and I know its me but I can’t help it. I get bored so quickly with relationships after I get the guy and the thrill is gone I’m looking for my next prospect. I just want to know whats wrong with me and how do I keep from getting bored with men?
Let’s me just first begin by saying, theres absolutely nothing wrong with you but you have to be the one to believe that. As far as you’re boredom in relationships with these guys, there could be a few different reasons for that. The first reason (which I’m betting on) is you haven’t found “the one” yet and you’re not the only one in this situation. They say you know, when you know because thats literally how it works. When you find the one, the both of you could spend hours on the phone talking about Pokemon Go and you’re going to be so enamored with them because you’re in love. There’s no process to falling in love unless it was a forced relationship, its something you can’t help and have no control over. Falling in love is like literally being taken as a hostage and it doesn’t give you back until it’s done with you. So just be patient and allow yourself to be open to any possibilities and you may surprise yourself.
The next possibility could be your not a monogamous person and theres nothing wrong with this scenario either. Some people aren’t meant to be in monogamous relationships because of the fact that they get bored, no matter the reason. If you one day come to the conclusion that you can’t just be with one person its better to accept that then try to fight I or convince yourself to be in a relationship. Don’t lie to someone else or especially yourself, you’ll only be wasting your time and theirs.
My best advice is to be honest with yourself and whoever you are involved with at the moment. If you feel yourself getting bored then don’t try to force it and avoid putting any sort of labels on anything until you’ve had some time to digest what you’re feeling or if you’re feeling anything. You’ll end up saving yourself and your partner a lot of stress.